The key to happiness, to a fulfilling life, is assuring our life stories orbit around principles that are universal and enduring. 

June 4, 2019

Cave Living?

Too many people live their lives facing a cave wall while other people create realities for them by making shadows on the wall. This is a metaphor, of course, but an ancient one. The best lives are lived facing the sun, not with our backs to it soaking in shadows. 

Take what is good. Leave the rest. Breaking free from a dysfunctional family role that is harmful can be difficult. Here are some steps on how to take that step and be a healthier human being. 

Are you going through life following a script written for you by your family? If you came from a great family, that's mostly good. But if not...? We discuss different examples of how we often, unwittingly, follow an unhealthy script that is not our own. We often keep rehearsing old scenarios, reacting to old hurts and playing outdated roles. Isn't it time to take control? 

Did you know many people live according to a script that has been written by someone else? We talk about the role of the family, for better and for worse, in scripting us to play a certain role in life. You can be the author (or co-author) of your own life's story. 

If your life was a film, what kind of reviews would you get? Would it be a blockbuster or a snoozer? Conceptualizing our lives like they are stories where we play the main character, the protagonist, helps us be more intentional about our purpose, be more in control, overcome obstacles and avoid being victims. Join us to learn how to write (or re-write) your life story.

We all want to be happy, to flourish, to be seen as valuable, worth loving. Too often, this doesn't happen the way we wish it would. It seems, too, we live behind masks, acting out scripts that others have written for us. Season 3 will exam so many topics related to human flourishing and will even include film and music episodes and reviews. 

Homelessness is a terrible epidemic, but often unseen and thus, not often thought about. In cities like Los Angeles and San Francisco, where the cost of housing has been skyrocketing, it is nearly impossible not to see homeless persons encamped in lots of unusual (and usual) places. We are replaying one of our episodes on homelessness because it is such a devastating problem. Lots of people inspire us by sacrificing their time and money to help them. We encourage you to go back to season 1 and listen to the other episodes as well.  

[We will begin season 3 on Tuesday, April 30 with a special musical spotlight. Stay tuned!] 

The era in which we live can either be a time of opportunity for Christians or a time of continued alienation (for many Christians) from LGBT persons. Christians have a responsibility to be people of hope, who meet people where they are at and take the initiative to forge relationships. We have presented many examples this season (and last) of ways LGBT persons suffer. We can be beacons of love and hope for them, and all those who suffer. 

[This is the season finale. We will have an episode next week and begin season 3 on Tuesday, April 30 with a special music edition] 

Great show featuring interview with a staff member, Kyle Miller, of Rainbow Railroad, an organization that assists persecuted LGBTI persons find safety. You can learn more about their work at 

We continue our interview with Dave and Patty (see last week's episode) about how discovering they had two gay sons challenged them and ultimately resulted in a major shift in their lives. 

Dave and Patty discovered their two sons were gay when they were just teenagers. They tell us their story, the impact of that news and how it challenged and transformed their lives. 

Children and youth who are gay often struggle. They often feel alone, displaced, even unwanted. Sometimes they even lack hope in the future. Language and attitudes matter. A lot. This episode brings together the previous two episodes with the help of two engaging and enlightening interviews. One, with a new guest, the noted writer Andrew Sullivan. In the other we replay parts of a previous guest interview from our show, "Persons, not Agendas..." You will want to share this show! 

"Alt-right" Christians current demonization of gay people by referring to them as "homo predators," "homo mob," "enemies of Christ," etc., is not a new tactic. The sick fanatics of Nazi Germany might have been some of the best propagandists in recent history, demonizing and dehumanizing those they wanted to eliminate from Germany. Those they sought to purge, such as Jewish persons, the mentally disabled and homosexuals (among others) found themselves at the receiving end of tactics intended to instill fear, anger, disgust, even hatred toward them. We compare these methods with tactics being employed by some conservative Christians, as well as governments and groups worldwide, that target gay persons.  

Some conservative Catholic groups and individuals are using language seemingly as a weapon to stir up their supporters (and others) into a frenzy of fear, anger, even hatred of the "other." They use language like, "Homo Mob," "Homo Heretics," "Anti-Life," "Enemies of Christ," "Purveyors of Perversion." Language means something. It has stirred groups to violence, even to committing mass atrocities. The common denominator? Demonization, and thus, de-humanization of the other. Some gay persons have already suffered, possibly as a result of these groups and individuals. We talk about this problem in this two-part series. 

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